Aspie women dating
However they often do not receive necessary information and help with dating and intimacy skills.
And so they are often frustrated or bafﬂed by interactions with neurotypical friends and partners, who seem to ask for so much, so often, and who seem so difﬁcult to satisfy.
Many relationship elements that I assume are essential are not necessarily relevant to my clients. I have begun to think that all of us — whether or not we have Asperger's — should create our own "operating manuals" to discuss with prospective lovers and partners.
We could include all kinds of useful information, taking the sting of surprise from some issues and opening opportunities for communication that would otherwise have been closed.
Shows like "The Big Bang Theory" and "Silicon Valley" glamorize these nerds by showing them to not only make big bucks, but actually get the girl (even if she's a nerdy girl too).
Computer and technological proﬁciency is not only hip, it’s essential, and so it makes sense that those most technically adept are ﬁnally getting some respect and maybe even a little nookie.
Rather than pressing for social and emotional conformity which may not serve these relationships, we should learn more about how individual people with Asperger’s Syndrome view their relationships, their partners, and their own experiences of sexuality and gender.
The average or neurotypical partners also need to learn coping and communication skills to understand their AS partners.
They also may need emotional reassurance as they struggle to understand their partner's signals of commitment and caring.
Therefore, the ways in which they express and interpret feelings of closeness may be so unexpected (according to average, neurotypical standards) that this communication may be unnoticed or misinterpreted by their partners, For AS people, sharing a beloved special interest, with all its minutiae, may be a most intimate act.
Practical tasks are another way that many people with AS show affection — but this may be a social and emotional cue missed by those neurotypical partners who’d rather have roses than weekly inﬂation of their tires!